As the days go by, more and more people are feeling alone and neglected, either by their loved ones, friends, family, or the world at large. And as much as it is not something that they want for themselves, they do not know how to go about treating or successfully living with it.
The stigma that is attached to talking about loneliness and anxiety, as well as the fallacy that it is a mental disorder, makes it even harder for the victims to seek help. In fact, research shows that more than 50% of the people affected by loneliness and anxiety in America are not getting the necessary help because of the fear of coming out publicly.
So, how do loneliness and anxiety affect you as an individual? Well, is all starts with the fear of being alone. The feeling of abandonment and undefined nervousness grows over time and develops into existential anxiety, which is essentially a constant feeling of emptiness and vulnerability.
During the first few days, it is close to impossible to note the behavioral changes as a result of loneliness and anxiety. However, as the days go by, you might notice that your normal routine of sleep is affected. Insomnia happens as a result of the vague and unsettling thoughts constantly running in your mind. You suddenly turn into an introvert who suddenly becomes tensed when interacting with people, especially those that are not close to your circle.
So, what is the genesis of this fear of loneliness? Most of the times, the fear of being alone is not as obvious as you might think. For instance, when you stretch your schedule to avoid spending time alone, what you are avoiding is spending time by yourself. You are basically running away from yourself. What is hiding behind the fear of spending time by yourself? Figuring this might help you tackle your loneliness head-on.
Fear of loneliness might also be as a result of unresolved childhood issues. As a child, we are helpless and extremely vulnerable to rejection and abandonment. Being subjected to rejection at a young age leaves deep marks that might never heal due to lack of proper care. Maybe someone that you wanted to be there for you, wasn’t, and the fear took that empty space and made it its home. This fear will continuously haunt you, especially when you are alone.
“Don’t be alone this year, spend the holidays with a doll”.
Another possibility might also be the fact that the fear in itself isn’t focused on loneliness precisely, but at some trait of yourself. There may be some aspect about yourself that you don’t wish to acknowledge or see. And that’s why you might be avoiding contact with your inner self that can only happen when you’re alone.
Also, another possibility might that as a society; we have created a false impression of what being alone means. Maybe we are yet to experience it, and the fear of uncertainty makes us believe that it’s a bad thing and leads us to constantly avoiding it. Loneliness is also uncomfortable as we tend to think that we are unable to handle it and the fact that we need a shoulder to lean on doesn’t make it any better.
How Do You Escape from Loneliness and Anxiety
The best thing about all of this is that it is possible to treat and reduce the anxiety that emanates from the fear of solitude. Most of the times, all we need to do is assess the situation and make a few lifestyle changes. However, some people may require professional help to remedy the anxiety. Either way, here are some of the step to escaping from loneliness and anxiety;
- Assess your habits- Some of your habits like spending too much time on your computer or cell phone might leave you isolated from your environment. Over time, the isolation turns into anxiety. You don’t want this. Do you?
- Focus on the positive side of being alone- Take a second and reflect on the advantages that you might enjoy by spending some time alone. What are the things that you could do while alone and still find them interesting and entertaining?
- Avoid fetishizing the company of others- Most are the times that we tend to assume that spending time with others will the best idea. Take a look and see whether that is true.
- Being alone does not necessarily mean locking yourself in the house- You don’t have to stay in the house. Go out and watch a movie by yourself.
- Strengthen your existing friendships- Cultivating and maintaining close friendships, alienates the fear of loneliness. Close connections enhance our emotional wellbeing.
SEX DOLLS AS A REMEDY FOR LONELINESS
As we’ve seen, there are many causes of loneliness, and while psychologists tie it to genetics, other factors such as situation variables (relocating to a new place, divorce, and physical isolation) are known causes of loneliness. And while solitude might be a sign of depression, the death of someone significant in your life might as well trigger loneliness.
Loneliness triggers a wide range of mental and physical effects such as;
- Alcoholism, drug abuse and porn addiction
- Depression and suicide
- Poor memory
- Stroke and cardiovascular diseases
- Poor decision making, among others.
Having looked at the causes and negative implications of loneliness, we will look at how sex dolls can be used to treat and reduce loneliness. Firstly, sex dolls can be instrumental for people suffering from loneliness from the loss of a loved one. Death of a fiancé is one of the most heartbreaking experiences. And though people have varying degrees of dealing with the loss of a loved one and moving on, the void that is left takes time to overcome. In such a scenario, you can use a sex doll to help you acclimatize and get the courage to move on into a new relationship. With a sex doll, you have a non-judgmental friend who will be there with you as you mourn the loss. This will help you adjust and get back to the dating world seamlessly.
Sex dolls can also be used to combat loneliness that comes from having low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to have a vague belief that their inputs are not important and will mostly shy off from human interactions, especially when it’s the opposite sex involved. The low self-esteem may also be promoted by a physical deformity such as a disability. In such a case, the sex doll can help you ‘practice’ how you will actually confront the other person. You can try out different sex positions with the sex doll as you gather the courage to start an intimate friendship with a potential suitor. In the same way, the disabled can use the sex doll to meet their sexual needs seeing that they are disadvantaged in the dating world. This will go a long way in building back the self-esteem and combating loneliness.
Divorce and physical isolation are two possible causes of loneliness. Depending on the severity of the break-up, people tend to compare and demean themselves, constantly shelving the blame and viewing themselves as not ‘good enough.’ This might lead to loneliness as you seek to understand the situation by yourself.
Physical isolation, on the other hand, may be brought about by factors such as work commitments, or school. This separation may trigger loneliness as both parties have to spend time alone and away from the other. Whether in divorce or physical isolation as a result of unavoidable circumstances, sex dolls come in handy. A sex doll can help a divorcee to move on and escape from the chains of loneliness by offering an alternative that will help you acclimatize and move back to the dating world again. On the other hand, the sex doll is one of the best alternatives, if not the best for people going through physical isolation. Not only will the sex doll help you fulfill your sexual needs in the absence of your loved one but it’s actually not cheating. Amazing. Don’t you think?
SEX DOLLS AS A REMEDY FOR ANXIETY
Described as the constant feeling of emptiness and vulnerability, anxiety causes you to worry so much about a situation that it starts to affect you physically. Anxiety may be referring to different things all of which are caused by the fear of uncertainty. For instance, stage performance anxiety refers to the fear that comes with performing or speaking in front of a crowd. On the other hand, sexual performance anxiety and which is one of the most common forms of anxiety, especially among men, refers to the fear associated with performing for a partner sexually.
Delving deep into sexual performance anxiety, why do you think it affects men more than women? Well, according to doctors, this form of anxiety is tied to other sexual disorders such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, both of which are common in men. Additionally, men’s sexual performance is closely connected with self-esteem and happiness in the relationship. Men are looking for women to view them as masculine and zealous to please. For this reason, when a man fails to perform sexually as he expects, anxiety creeps in ultimately affecting his sex life.
Anxiety can be socially crippling and can hinder you from enjoying life. It robs you the joy of life and can cause physical and mental complications in the long run. The problem is, the more you become anxious, the more your body reacts to the anxiety. Other than the mental symptoms, physical symptoms include cold and sweaty hands, nausea, breathing difficulties, diarrhea, among others.
So, how can sex dolls be used to treat anxiety? Sex dolls can be used to correct sexual performance anxiety by offering an alternative that resembles your partner and one that can gradually build on your confidence and self-esteem again. The cause of the performance anxiety might be the fear of not living up to the expectations of your partner. With a realistic sex doll, you can try out different sex positions and frequencies to help you regain the sureness and ultimately live up to the standards of your partner.
We have been seen how sex dolls bring great benefits to both men and women,
To sum it up, sex dolls are an ideal alternative for treating and reducing loneliness and anxiety. When facing loneliness and anxiety, it is very easy to get into temporal friendships and relationships that are aimed at making us ‘feel okay’ for the time being. These forms of friendships might actually worsen the situation leaving you without a shoulder to lean on when you need it the most. Also, sex dolls are ideal for treating loneliness as they provide a safer alternative to people that have lost a partner or coming from a divorce. Sex dolls are safer than patronizing brothels and the best part about it; it’s technically not cheating. How good is that?